Wednesday, October 28, 2015

trying to stop pilferage



Tuesday, December 11, 2012


How things are wrapped!

Including packaging have sure changed. When we had our toy store, a blister package was a thin sheet of plastic over the item, and you would pull it apart as easily as peeling a banana.

Today, not so. It's just about the hardest chore on my schedule these days. However, I have a wonderful friend...Virginia, who lives right next door to me. One day she walked over with a present for me....a good pair of scissors made for slicing into todays's blister pack.

When she brought it over, I thought I would never have occasion to use it.

Well...this gift returned me from insanity to being very functional.

My old cell phone wouldn't hold a charge....so I made a new purchase of an upgraded one. Not only was the phone in rigid heavy-duty plastic....but the battery also came locked in a blister of it's own.

I wonder if the manufactures over in China giggled as they constructed these...............saying those stupid Americans will be cursing over this.

Anyway, back to Virginia and her magic shears.....cut right through all those heavy layers...and finally after cutting this way and that way.....hooray, I was able to retrieve my purchase.

Now....all I have to do is study the instructions. Help Virginia!!!!!!! And while I was struggling to open this...Jeff and Donna were on Skype with me...watching...and I don't want them to know how weak I am.

They were exchanging the $300. that they had entered into my old phone and putting that amount into my new cell.

Now I have to wait for someone to call me! I gotta use up some of that money!

Sunday, October 25, 2015


Thursday, January 14, 2010

Senior learning!

Last week my friend Harriet and I decided we'd  like to join a group of seniors on a trip to St. Petersburg, Fl.  on a venture called Grandedventures.

It's a little pricey but we enjoyed our vacation at a new Hilton Hotel which was beautiful and our home away from home for a week.

We both felt we needed a little time away from our reservation  here at High Point to see new faces and study new people and courses.   There was a so-called religious man who came with a pretty woman whom I assumed was his wife.   He wore 4 different colored skull caps every day and he was constantly quoting from the Bible.   During one of my gossip sessions, I found out they were shacking up together.   I still get shocked!    What's wrong with me!   He  changed yarmulkes (skull caps) like a woman switching earrings.

The classes we attended were very interesting...and some of the speakers were familiar to us...the Russian Orthodox priest talking about his wife and their belief in the Trinity.   We also were happy to reunite with our music lady talking about Cole Porter...and the next day showing us clips of Gene Kelly and that he came from Pittsburgh where I come from and that he had a dance studio where he gave lessons early on.

We spent New Year's eve listening to the Vienna Symphony Orchestra.   I have never seen such a huge stage..and we didn't just listen to the music of the masters...but we watched magical ballet and heard lots of opera.   I was entranced.   Perfect.   My only complaint...everything was in German...and I still haven't forgiven them for the Halacaust.

The food at the hotel was all right.   We all got served the same menu and there weren't too many complaints .   Anything served to me is good.   Let's face it...I'm getting very lazy.  All the deserts were sugar free which wasn't such a great idea because to some people the artificial stuff is poison in their bodies.

Our week was good...went very fast.   We were very cold so we wern't able to take the boat ride offered...but we did get to see the Barnum-Ringling Bros. Circus Museum.

One man spent 50 years  building a matchbox scale of the circus....and that really interested me...such detail....  He included all the trains, animals, performers, tents, and even how they prepared their food....and the dishes they used... a view into their lives and how  hard these people worked to install the tents and then a day later...take it all down again....and do it in another city.

In those days, many of the artists were considered freaks of nature...the bearded lady...twins joined together,,, Siamese and which they're able to separate today.....dwarfs and very tall people over 7 feet.

All that is changed today.   I do remember the day the circus would come to our town and we were all excused from school to watch the circus parade with their big elephants and Arabian Horses.   What a treat that was.

I recall that one year they were selling periscopes for 25 cents.   That was a lot of money when you're 8 years old...but the vendor promised that I would be able to look behind me to see the homework of a classmate.   I fell for it..and was I ever disappointed.  But that was decades ago.

/Returning home from our trip we experienced a massive blowout on our bus tire.    Not every garage can accommodate a bus....so we waited almost 3 hours.   The bus company sent another bus from Miami...but in the meantime a garage came....so we were rescued.

While all this excitement was happening,  Seth who owns Grandedventures brought all of us wine, crackers, cheese and little veggies.   There was such a feeling of camarderie on that bus that we hadn't experienced all week....so everything serves a reason.  When Seth, his wife and son boarded our bus while we were delayed he was received with such applause...he'd come to save us!

I'm glad I went...I'm glad I'm home!

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

It's called HOME

Watching well-built million dollar homes on TV  makes me aware that I have everything I want and need owning the little home where I live.


It has every conceivable thing  anyone could ask for.  Granted I don't have a stainless steel refrigerator, but what I have keeps my food ice cold....and the outside wall holds  all pertinent information such as my living will.   I want it where everyone can see I want no hookups.


I don't have granite countertops, but I love the formica  that I have.


My flooring, made of of laminate is so enjoyable to my feet that I walk around barefooted and content.


My two bathrooms are one more that I  need but I enjoy having it....with a shower and a bathtub....take your choice!


My extra large bedroom is where I live with my big flat picture screen, my computer and my queen size bed....and a leather recliner.  .


I also have a loft if anyone needs an extra bedroom.


I'm so happy here...and content...and feel very lucky and grateful.


I LOVE MY HOME!!I\\

Sunday, October 11, 2015

New Kensington residents take to the streets in hopes of reviving the downtown scene

New Kensington residents take to the streets in hopes of reviving the downtown scene




My town and they're trying to revive it.   Like many towns across the United States, they are boarded up and reduced to what used to be known as a ghosttown.   




I remember when it was booming....before progress took hold.   Before K marts and Cosco....before malls replaced these mom and pop stores.




When we didn't know what to do with ourselves we would go window shopping...downtown...and that was fun.   Then we'd go to Woolworth's or Murphy's, or Isaly's and indulge ourselves in a milkshake.




Later, my husband Allen and I owned a toy store...Gordon Toys on 4th Avenue....but then after years...everything halted and our town literally 'died'.




  Now the do gooders are trying to revive it.   Can they???   Will they???   I sure hope so. 


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New Kensington’s future on display for a day


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In its heyday around 1950, New Kensington was a bustling town of 25,000 people, considered the gateway to Westmoreland County. It had its own brewery, library, dairy, railroad station, newspaper, opera house and fire department.
Half a century later, after the decline of industry in the region and the loss of half of its population, today’s downtown New Kensington is full of empty storefronts and faded signs. A few small businesses struggle to bring in new customers.
On Saturday, however, visitors can get a glimpse of what the town might become.
From noon to 8 p.m., downtown New Kensington will be transformed with pop-up businesses in empty storefronts plus food, art, music and lights as part of a revitalization initiative called Better Block.
Better Block is a community improvement project that began on one block in Dallas, Texas, in 2010 and has spread to dozens of cities across the country, including San Francisco, Cleveland and Youngstown, Ohio. The project focuses on bringing together city officials, local nonprofits, businesses and residents to clean up, repaint and restore a commercial downtown area.
“This is a downtown makeover to show what New Kensington could be,” said Jessica Levine, ReStore manager for Habitat for Humanity of Allegheny Valley and an organizer for the second Better Block event in New Kensington. “To showcase the town’s potential, we have a pop-up dog park, two stages booked with live music, a beer garden built from pallets, a pop-up winery and art gallery, and dozens of food and craft vendors.”
The now-defunct Hart’s department store building will hold a vintage wedding show, displaying dresses from the ’40s through the ’80s, some bought at Hart’s, complete with stories from the women who wore them.
“We want to show a safe and wonderful downtown in the evening hours,” Ms. Levine said. “A dozen different people will give you a dozen different reasons why New Kensington has changed. What will bring it back is young people who see the potential. It takes people with energy and commitment.”
New Kensington Mayor Tom Guzzo praised the people working together to create a vision of the future for a single day.
“It creates a certain kind of buzz. This is the second Better Block event we’ve had. The first was in May, and we had over 2,000 people turn out. From a city perspective, it is great to see that much life and energy come back to the downtown area. It allows us to transform downtown and show what it can be,” Mr. Guzzo said. “This is done mostly by volunteers all pulling together.”
The city will provide some services and allow the use of some public properties, he said, but the cost is not significant. A $3,500 grant from the Greater Alle-Kiski Association of Realtors is paying for insurance and the use of public facilities for the day.
Public art projects are planned by art students from Valley High School, the Pittsburgh Office of Public Art and local artists, who are working to connect new and nostalgic imagery of downtown.
In one empty storefront, a team from the Penn State’s New Kensington campus will offer a pop-up tech/entrepreneur shop.
The event will take place along Fourth and Fifth avenues and Ninth and 10th streets. Streets will not be blocked off, but sidewalk areas will be expanded for seating. Temporary crosswalks and bicycle lanes will be installed by local university students.

Monday, August 24, 2015

Morikami



Thursday, February 28, 2013


Written by my friend, Virginia Blanchard

<vblanchard318@yahoo.com> wrote:
thought you'd like to read something i wrote after my last visit to the morikami last week

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song of the bamboo


we are here .....tall and straight.... we bend and sway..

we yield, forgive, teach, be

we have been forever.....

we speak, we sing

we know the answers, yet no one asks

we require silence, attention, peace, a mindful awareness

we wait, watch, know

we are silent until the wind blows..... wind older than time.....our friend


through the wind we sing,
the sound of a rusty gate that leads to home, low, throaty, soft

we choose the wind that brings life to what we say, not all are worthy

we wait for those who understand, who listen to the void before, during, and after our words

we have stories to tell about the beginning and the end

we bend

we wait for you to listen

we watch you pass, quickly, talking

we wait for you to listen

to our song

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Frustrated...or is it me???

About ten years ago, hotels and motels came out with a new form of key.   Plastic like a charge card and you insert it in the room you're renting.
Well..sounds good...but does it work...at least some of the time.   I swipe it in the hotel slot in the door...and nothing happens...except for a red light.  Now I know that red lights mean trouble...so I instantly remove.

Now I try again turning the card in a different direction...same story.   I insert the card again and get a green light, but if you don't remove the card fast enough, it shuts off.  And this ritual goes on and on!

Five minutes have passed by now and I feel stupid, plus ..   I have to use the bathroom. 

 Finally another guest comes along and smiles at me.   I return the smile but I guess she can see utter disappointment in my face because she asks, can she help me.

I admit that I'm stuck outside my door.  I can't get in.   She takes my card...does exactly what I did...and the door flies open.

She feels very accomplished and I feel like a real dud.   She probably told someone she helped an elderly lady get into her room and why is she traveling at all if she can't even us a cardkey.

Does this happen to other people too....or is it just me????

Please .. please.. give me my old key back...even a skeleton one will do.

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

I'm being accused!

I'm being accused of becoming a recluse by my friend Virginia.    Perhaps she's right!   I don't go out much except to buy groceries at Publix or Winn Dixie.


Gotta eat don't I?     We're in the afternoon rainy season and usually afternoons is when I tend to leave my house to go shopping.


But the truth of the matter is when I moved here I had more friends than I could handle.   When I had a dinner party, I had to invite about l2 to 14 people....and that was with eliminating some hoping they wouldn't find out.   I enjoyed having friends but now I know it's all in timing.


One of my favorite authors years ago Helen Van Slyke wrote:




 
As the years passed that number dwindled down .. and down .. and down.


Some passed on .. while others went to live in retirement homes where they get catered to.


Which, for me, narrowed my field down to nothing.    I'm feeling the loss.


    Younger people have moved into our community of 333 units, but they're all much younger, and who wants to be stuck with someone who could be their mother.


I understand the situation well.    I still talk on the phone to a few friends, but the sad part of that is they've lost a good deal of memory.


So...I busy myself with my computer, books, my children, and TV.... and that keeps me pretty well satisfied.


I still consider myself very fortunate.....I'm living in a cute little villa...and I'm still alive!  And this was written on friendship


On Friendship
 Kahlil Gibran
Your friend is your needs answered.
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And he is your board and your fireside.
For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.


When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the "nay" in your own mind, nor do you withhold the "ay."
And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.


And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is 



Wednesday, June 24, 2015


Sunday, September 6, 2009

Our starter-up home but we stayed over 30 years!

Well, it appears Jeff had a different idea. He wanted his crib in our room, just like it was in our little apartment.
He screamed and screamed ...and then wanted to join us in bed.
Every day I carried him and said this is Jeffy's room...all yours. Your toys are here. We have our room--you have yours.
He still cried for a month. Then Dr. Spock said you just have to let him cry...and don't give in...and finally after 4 days we had peace in the house and the bed to ourselves.
That is, until he learned to crawl out of his crib and he would go to Allen's side to get in and he was never refused.There were many times that I ended up sleeping in the crib because I couldn't sleep 3 in a double bed. Triple beds were rare in those days and it never even entered our minds.
Anyway we had big retaining walls in our driveway and in the back to hold back the 2nd terrace. The street above us was being excavated...and every night after dinner, the 3 of us would go to gather big rocks. To this day the wall is still standing.....a labor of love
.Retirement came and everyone said maybe I could buy Allen an extra couple years down in florida. No more urging...I wanted my husband to live....so we moved....and here I am.
I'm truly glad we made the move...life is so much simpler here..
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Saturday, June 14, 2008

Chicken Little

How many hundreds of thousands of chickens have we tried to be creative with? I know you're not supposed to end a sentence with a preposition...but now I must concentrate on this chicken thing.

Each country has different cooking styles for this unlucky bird whose main reason for living is to give us eggs and then let us feed on him.

I'll tell you what really disturbs me. When I go to the supermarket and I see their rotisserie with all the chicken, side by side, with their wings at their side, roasting and rotating while their juices flow.

Perhaps I should become a vegetarian!

Dog eat dog world!

Anyhow today I'm in the process of doing something with breasts...not mine...a chicken whose fate is to be not long-lived.

Did he enjoy his little bit of time on earth? Does he have a brain.

I know he has a heart and a liver...but I've never heard of chicken brains. I've heard of cow brains...but what about this unfortunate creature.

Am I spoiling my appetite for what I am about to cook!!!! MAYBE.

Friday, June 5, 2015

And now it's almost 4 years later...and they have Davis


Sunday, November 20, 2011

Virginia looks so thoughtful!

I decided to have a neighborhood party months ago ...but didn't want to work too hard cause I'm not so young anymore.  

A good way to host a party in your home is to order salads from Wendy's.  They're delicious....reasonable...and easy to serve...right in their own containers.and so easy to clean up after.

Ordered them from Wendy's the day before...and they had them all ready.  However, I didn't use their plastic utensils.  I used my stainless forks and knives.   It looks like we're all boozing it up...but not true.   I got bottles of green tea for everyone...I want my friends to be healthy.

The reason my friend's picture is here...she helped me with everything...and I couldn't enjoy the lifestyle that I do without  Virginia.

She is my source...I call her when I'm in trouble...and I don't wish her any mishap...but I sure wish she would reciprocate when she feels the need.

Recently she invited me to go to the beach with her...and lo and behold, I fell on the way down...and embarrassingly, I wasn't able to get up.   Virginia reached out her small sweet hand to help me, but I wouldn't grab it...to bring her down with me.

Finally two gentlemen came along and each told a hand and I was upright ... like an old piano...but I wasn't feeling good about myself.   Where the heck did my balance go???

She also accompanied me when we went to Ryan and Daniela's wedding...and we had to share a big bed.  Never went to a Hyatt where they didn't have twin beds..but that's the way it was.

Anyway...I'm sure glad that she moved next door...fate has a way!

Thursday, May 28, 2015

My entertainment



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Thursday, May 1, 2008


It's a living breathing thing!

A salamander was running alongside the top of my fence on my patio. I believe I sat about half an hour watching this tiny specimen creature, one of God's creations.

A little red thing would energize every couple of seconds from his throat area and I didn't know if it was his breathing, catching bugs, or a sexual thing.

One thing I do know! It reminded me of how a dynasaur must have looked a billion years ago except a lot diminished in size.

Is this part of the reptile family? Is it a bug? Whatever, he was so cute that I would never dare deliberately take him out of this world. Some people refer to them as geicos...others as lizards.

Little children when they visit from the north want to take them home with them...but I explain that it's a tropical creature.

Some people meditate...others do yoga. Me...I watch salamanders.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

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Wednesday, July 28, 2010

We need the immigrants!!

I wondering what America thinks of the really hard workers who do very manual labor....

For those of us living in villas and condominiums, the immigrant men keep our lawns well manicured.

I was watching from out my back window...backbreaking work....never stopping for a second even though they're not being watched.

Raking..raking...making a pile then putting all the debris into a large cylinder container...to be emptied into their trucks.

I'm sure they don't make much money...not even sure if they have hospitalization or social security.

They are willing to live in incredibly substandard housing — witness all the garage renovations found in foreclosure housing. They are willing to live with others in a room in houses full of strangers. For these reasons, for many employers, they are more desirable as employees

They're very poor people....but very hard working.   Wonder if they find contentment when they fill up the big dump truck....to be moved on to the next location.

Are they thinking about their families back in Haiti...and of the money that they'll be sending home.

Rice and beans...one's a starch and the other a legume.   Is their enough nourishment so that they can labor another day.

I wonder what all the fuss is about ... immigration!   They're doing us a favor!

Friday, May 15, 2015

Soon hurricane season will be scaring us!

Lots of people claim they wouldn't want to make Florida their retirement home because of our hurricanes.

They are awful...and I've lived through a couple...and it wasn't pleasant.    Actually scary to say the least, especially when  you've lost your power for 8 days...and the nights are sooooo very dark.

There's a song I used to sing to myself during these periods...."Hello Darkness My Old Friend--I've Come to Be With You Again".

Anyway, High Point, my development discovered the way to prevent the horrors of hurricanes....they bought a generator....and I pass this everyday on my way to our pool, and it's the best un-used thing we own.

The batteries are patiently waiting...my propane grill is properly full...my hurricane lamps fit nicely on my end table....and the battery fan is hidden safely away in a closet.

So....I'll use my cans of tuna and my salmon..spread my peanut  butter on some of the bread that I've frozen away...for when it  was needed.

Monday, May 11, 2015

Mother's Day 2015

A queen size bed welcomes my body every night,  allowing me to think about what's happened in my life , luring me into blissful unconsciousnesss, my head nesting comfortably sinking into  familiar pillows allowing me to cuddle to myself.   Not to the very edge of the bed permitting me the luxury of not falling, but almost in the middle.   Many of my friends find themselves on the floor.
  

Waking up remembering  that today is Mother's Day and Jeff and Donna were coming over and we were spending the day together.


Restaurants are out for us on this day, notoriously being known as the busiest day of the year letting children and husbands entertain the  joy of releasing mom from cooking and taking her 'out'.


Every eating place is so busy and waitresses are impatient with the demands thrust upon them.


Nope...Jeff and Donna were bringing food to me, served by them, in my dining room...and it was such a feast...a little bit of this...and some of that.   I loved it!


For desert I had made baked apples...the only ingredient I had in the house for this specialty...so deciding this is how receipes are created ...searching my pantry I discovered a can of whole cranberries and a package of roasted, toasted, sunflower seeds.    I had lots of cinnamon and added a tad of sweet whipped butter.


My oven which I rarely use these days was gladly accepting the casserole of this sweet smelling fruit.


After our tummies were full  my grown up children led me into my bedroom where my TV and computer are....and with magic of  WI FI, converted the pictures I had on my Piccasso in my computer, transferring  them to my 52 inch TV.....all in beautiful living color for me to enjoy sitting in my comfortable recliner.


I had such a good time and I'm so grateful for my family.

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

I wouldn't be able to go to bed in good conscience if I did not publish this piece on the origin of where we got the piano.   It happens to be my favorite instrument, and used as a solo, it's absolutely soul searching.  Before TV and radio, most middle class homes owned a piano because that was their entertainment, and if someone could sing with accent sweet, it made for an evening of sheer enjoyment......so here we go...


Who invented the piano? And why was he forgotten?

One of Cristofori's early pianos. Dea/L.De Masi/Getty Images

The piano is one of those inventions that's hard to think of as an invention because it's just always been ... there. When you do think about someone actually inventing it, it's hard not to wonder: why haven't I heard of this person before? And why isn't his name plastered on every piano in existence?
Bartolomeo Cristofori, who celebrates his 360th birthday today, is generally credited with being the sole inventor of the piano. The fact that his name is largely forgotten is a reflection of his times, when a genius could be just another employee.

The piano eventually beat the harpsichord by solving its biggest problem

A 1750 drawing shows a man playing a harpsichord. Hulton Archive/Getty Images
A 1750 drawing shows a man playing a harpsichord.
The first official record of the piano appears in 1700, though Cristofori may have been working on it for a couple of years before then. Cristofori's most recognizable piano dates later, to 1720. But more important than the date was the step forward the piano represented.
At the time, the harpsichord was the dominant keyboard instrument. The biggest problem was that it couldn't play notes with differing degrees of softness. To play a note, a tiny device called a plectrum plucked a string, and the note played. There wasn't an easy way to modify the sound and give it additional nuance. Though there were some hacks (and other instruments) that tried to fix the problem, they never worked well enough.
The piano was clearly indebted to the harpsichord — in early records, Cristofori called the piano an Arpicembalo, which means "harp-harpsichord," and he frequently worked on and invented other harpsichord-like devices. But the piano took one big step beyond that instrument by using a hammer instead of plucking a string. That allowed for a better modulation of volume thanks to its hammers and dampers, which could more artfully manipulate sound than the plucking motion of the harpsichord.
The earliest surviving piano is from 1721, and it's clear it was a transitional instrument: there are hints of the harpsichord in its sound. As the Metropolitan Museum of Art notes, it had a narrower range, thinner strings, and harder hammers than modern pianos, which are part of the reason it sounds a bit like a harpsichord.
But even then, it's obvious why the piano changed music forever:


Soon, the piano got its name. Cristofori also referred to his invention as "un cimbalo di cipresso di piano e forte" (a keyboard of cypress with soft and loud), and over time it was shortened to piano forte, and eventually just piano.
It's rare that such an old instrument has so clear an inventor and is so obviously a revelation. So why do we have to be reminded of Bartolomeo Cristofori's name? After all, there must be a reason pianos aren't called Cristoforis.

Monday, April 20, 2015

And where do we go from here?

They used to be referred to as 'old age homes'...but now we're more modern and call them residential care homes....or assisted living....depending on your style of living and income.

Old age homes are a great option for a retired person or a couple who wants a low-maintenance residence that is also becomes an asset that can be gifted in a Will. Old age homes are generally located in a seniors-friendly housing complex that caters to the lifestyle of the retired person. Each apartment is a self-contained home, offering total independence and takes into consideration the health and safety requirements of senior citizens.

My friends, one by one, are all disappearing,  moving to one of these establishments.  Or else, the end of life has beckoned them and so they're on the other side of the grass.

I've been very privileged to be alive this long but I find it difficult to watch my shrinking world.  

When I moved to Florida, I had more friends than I could handle.   We had one thing in common:  we were from a different area of our country and migrated to this great state...so we became extended family.

Well, my so called geography family has disappeared....but I have a real bright spot.in my life... .my son and daughter in law moved to Florida and they're half an hour away...and for that I am truly grateful.

As for me, I'll stay in my little villa for as long as I'm able.

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Passover 2015

My grownup children decided that it's time to play....so they both retired and moved to our sunshine state....not that far from me.


I'm delighted, of course, and they both seem happy.  Although Jeff is wearing a boot at the moment due to a tear playing tennis.   He's also in therapy injuring his shoulder with the same atletic sport.


Jeff and Donna hosted a most wonderful seder at their home and I was really truly impressed.   Donna is not Jewish but she said the blessings in Hebrew as she lit the candles, as Passover fell on Friday.   The table looked splendid and her chicken soup was outrageously delicious.  Her friends brought in some of the food and I was truly impressed.


Jeff surprised me. conducting in Hebrew and we all took a turn reading from the Hagadah about the Jewish freedom that happened so many years ago.


It was an eventful night and one which I will hold sacred in my heart.



Sunday, April 5, 2015


Friday, December 3, 2010

The chicken or the egg...or the lyricist or composer !!!!!

It's always bothered me about music.   I love to hear songs sung...with poetic lyrics.  Now country music tells a complete story in so much detail that I don't enjoy listening.

But...let's take "Over the Rainbow"...the lyrics we all know were written by Yip Harburg.   His name will not go down in musical history...but the melody and words certainly will.....and the music of course was composed by Harold Arlen, a familiar name for many compositions.

When Jeff was in third grade, he was in a piano musical recital...and that was his song.   Of course, his father and I thought he was sensational.

It all started a year before.   We had placed an ad in our local Valley Daily News in the classifieds...wanted cheap piano for beginner.

Somebody 3 streets away read our need because she phoned within an hour after the paper was delivered.

She had in her basement an old upright player piano with bench..asking price $10.00.  How fantastic for  us.   We hired a mover and he had a problem getting this through our front door.

The guy said to us...how about us sliding it into your garage,  then into your basement.  

No way was our son going to practice in a cold damp cellar.      So  our front doorway was   goughed getting it in.

Allen painted it the same color as  our living room...and padded the bench with foam rubber so that little Jeff's tush would be comfortable.

Then we hired a blind piano tuner and he removed the player guts which were all rotted...another $25.00.

The piano teacher came to the house weekly to give Jeff ,  Schaum  lessons....simplified but to  this mother's ears sounded like Carnegie Music Hall.    I even took the phone off the hook so that he wouldn't be interrupted.

But back to lyricists Tim Rile wrote the words for Evita.     We all know  about Andrew Lloyd Webber....but not a thing about Tim.

Charles Hart wrote the lyrics  for Phantom of the Opera.....another unknown .

So....I'm trying to figure out if  the lyrics are as important as the music.!!!!!!!!!  I kinda believe that the words are more important.

But anyway...Jeff's recital was a complete success...his family made up the audience!
unday, November 2, 2014

Number Please!

Monday, May 26, 2008

My telephones

Our first phone was installed when I was 3 but I remember it.

No more running next door to make a phone call or receive one.

It was one with 2 pieces...you spoke in the speaker part and listened with the the ear phone.

When you lifted the handset, a very pleasant, non-computer voice said 'Number Please.

We had a 4-party line and if we were on too long, we heard about it from the other parties...and then we hung up fast.

Later, we got a circular number dial phone and I thought that was really 'up there'. The word high-tech did not come into being yet.

When Jeff was on vacation from college on Chanukah, he said we're all going to Sears and he was going to buy us a 'push button' phone.

Well, I was against this but I went along. That meant he had to un-install the one we had and re-install the new one.

I really thought I would never have telephone service again...but Jeff and Allen worked on this project and when they were finished, we had a dial tone and I knew we were back in business.

Now I have 3 phones...land phone, remote and a cell phone, which Jeff and Donna have charged for me every year....and every year I have tons of minutes on it ... but I forget to use it. I just don't like the quality of it....seems like a toy phone to me.

The phone I have in my bedroom is really snazzy....it's an 'answering machine' which I think is a miracle in itself.

I have 'caller ID' which interrupts me if I'm using the phone.

I also have a 'speaker phone'....and an ID feature which lets me screen calls if I want to.

It also tells me what time the caller has tried to reach me and the day.

I think that even Alexander Graham Bell would be overwhelmed by the wonderfulness that he invented.

What a sensationl invention. And one other feature, I get to use a web-cam and to see and talk to my kids every Sunday when they give me computer lessons...all the things I screwed up with during the week. Because of the phone I have high-speed internet service...all for reading ythe silly jokes.

I'm not complaining...I JUST LOVE IT1

1 comment:

virginia said...
ah yes, where would we be without this convenience ....

my first phone number was 49...phone was wood and hung on the wall...no dial..had a crank to signal the operator..different turns meant different things to her..

we were lucky because we only had a "party line" for just a little while then we had a "private line"..that was big stuff let me tell you

the "central office" was right down the street from where I lived..when I got old enough to be able to walk to town for the mail or an ice cream cone, I always stopped in to see the operator..the key board was in her house and i loved watching her work it...she even showed me how to "listen in" with out being detected...there could have been a law about that! lol lol

anyway, one of my first jobs was at a large company...they eventually asked me to sub on their "plug and key" switch board...wanna know if i ever listened in on any conversations between a boss and his lady (who wasn't his wife!!!)??

after 53 year together, my parents moved out of the house they had been in for 49 of those years..the last two numbers of their last phone number ended in: 49!

things do come full circle - don't they?
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Sunday, December 11, 2011

Poop

As I was discussing my walk down my cul de sac with Jeff and Donna on Skype, I happened to mention that I saw a dog answering nature's call.  I explained that I stood there waiting to see if the owner would do anything about it.   And sure enough, she grabbed it with a plastic bag and that was the first time I'd ever seen that done.

I had witnessed pooper scoopers but I had no seen this before.

So...I asked my kids about it.   Do you use regular plastic bags...is it awkward to grasp it...and all kinds of delicate facts like this.

So...Jeff gets a specially-store-bought bag for just this occassion and showed me how this is handled!    While he was doing this, I snapped their pictures....because who else owns a picture...or wants to own a picture like this.

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    Poop scooping services are popping up all over the place.[11] While this is a costlier option, it is worth the cost for some people, especially if the dog waste accumulates in a fixed place like your yard. And if there is no service in your area and you're an enterprising sort, why not start such a service?[12] It could be very rewarding!
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    Ask dog owners you know if they know of any good "waste handling" services.
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    Ask a local landscaper or pet-sitter if they'd consider providing this service.
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    Look up a service in the Find-a-Scooper International Directory at http://www.apaws.org/search/adv/default.aspx.

Dealing with dog poop rebels

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    If you come across someone who won't pick up their dog's poop right in front of you, assert yourself.
    If you come across someone who won't pick up their dog's poop right in front of you, assert yourself.
    If you come across someone who won't pick up their dog's poop right in front of you, assert yourself. Explain to them how unhygienic their action is and how it is disrespectful to the neighborhood. As well, explain that it lets down all dog owners who get smeared with the thoughtlessness of the few who don't pick up the poop and ends up with more bans on where dogs can go. There's no need to make a song and dance but do insist, and if it's a violation in your area, contact your community association or other suitable contact and report the incident.
    • You might say something like: "Sir/Madam, I realize that it's not the most pleasant task but as dog owners we have to show everyone else we are responsible and care about both our dogs and our neighborhood. Dog poop harbors disease and people don't want to tread in it. So, I'd really appreciate it if you'd pick up after your dog, just as I do."
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    Offer the person one of your bags. The gesture is difficult to turn down because it's polite and it's showing the other person that you expect them to behave responsibly.
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    Set an example to others by being proud to pick up your dog's poop.[13] This shows other dog owners an example of good dog ownership and lets people know that any mess around isn't from your dog.
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I used to have a neighbor with a sweet massive great dane. I adored the dog, and I think the feeling was mutual. In fact, I like most dogs more than I like most people.

His dog was constantly leaving coffee table sized lumps on my lawn. I politely asked him to simply clean up after the dog. His reply: "How do you know it was my dog?"

Never mind the fact that the neighborhood was zoned against horses, the only other domesticated animal large enough to leave such a prize. I had seen him do it repeatedly.

So. The next time I saw one, I used a plastic bag, scooped it up and left it on the hood of his car in the North Carolina summer sun. When he asked me about it, I replied: "How do you know it was me?"

Of course, the dog and I were no longer able to be friends. The really irritating thing is that he stopped his dog from using my yard after that. So it was something he could have done all along, but by choosing not to was just being an asshole.

I love dogs. I have a dog. I clean up after him every single time he goes to the bathroom. The people who don't clean up after their dogs are the first ones to complain when they aren't allowed on the beach or in parks, etc. I love their dogs, but I HATE those people.

Monday, March 30, 2015

Well written by a Rabbi but updated by me on the latest airplane crash

Friday, December 28, 2012


Reacting to Tragedy


It's become a commonplace, almost a cliché, that we have an incredibly short attention span for even the most important stories in our world. But, as hard as it may be to believe, we seem to have almost moved on, as a society, from the tragedy in Newtown, which took place just two weeks ago. The conversation about gun control, and to a lesser degree mental illnesses, rages on (thankfully), but it seems to me that the conversation about the tragedy itself has mostly waned. Maybe that's just because there isn't much left to say — how many times can we shake our heads and say, "there are no words"? Maybe it's because we have a need to protect ourselves, and dwelling on this tragedy is just too hard.

This morning, I read an article by Anthony Pinn, talking about the theological and humanist responses to Newtown. "Humanist" is a word that gets used very differently in different contexts, but here I think he's using it in the basic sense of "human centered." As in, let’s talk about this tragedy not in terms of God and "why God would let this happen," or, "what God can do for us now," but rather talk about the human side — what have we, as a society, done to enable this kind of tragedy? What should we, as human beings, be doing in response? How can we properly mourn, and how can we act to make a better world?

Why? Well, it's a pretty deep article, especially considering how short it is (so, you really should read it). But, in part it's because he believes that attempting to bring God into the conversation actually exposes weaknesses of theology: 
At best we might suggest that God “dropped the ball”—failed to do what a loving God is supposed to do. Instead, it seems to me, as we read the stories of the victims we are also reading God’s obituary. By this I mean that such extreme human tragedy makes it impossible to talk about God in any useful way.
 Don’t read this statement as a selfish demand for comfort, for an easy life. No, it’s recognition that nothing explains away the destruction of life’s integrity; but instead it highlights the fact that we labor in this world without cosmic aid that can protect us from us. Appeals to free will (as my comments are bound to generate) might not be a limitation God imposes on God’s self. It may simply be a weak way of saying we are in control, or what the late William R. Jones—philosopher of religion—called the “functional ultimacy” of human activity in the world. 
I like that phrase, "functional ultimacy of human activity in the world." Whatever you want to believe about God — God could prevent such tragedies, but chooses not to; God can't prevent such tragedies — the fact remains that God doesn't prevent such tragedies. At least within this limited scope, the world behaves as if there isn't a God. We, human beings, are the ultimate actors.

[Those of you who know my own theology know that this doesn’t drive me away from God, but it does drive me away from classical,dualist images of God]

He also believes that theological justifications do nothing to ease the pain of those who are suffering: 
I write this not to deny comfort for those who have been directly and indirectly touched by this unspeakable act of violence. Mine is an effort to acknowledge and respect grief without so quickly pushing to find some reason behind such tragedy. This loss of life is really beyond our limited human language. The loss experienced by those families, by those associated with the school, and by the collective American and human family is so intense, so absurd, so real that it calls for our full humanity beyond any talk of God. 
That actually matches up, incredible closely, with my own experience. I'm sure that there are people who react differently, but when I've encountered people who have suffered a tragedy, the question of, "Why did God let this happen?" usually comes up. And, they almost invariably find comfort when I use the message of Rabbi Joseph Soloveitchik who said (in my hopelessly inadequate summary) that that's the wrong question to ask. But not because, in the popular phrasing, "we can't understand God's plans." No, Soloveitchik says, don't say that God has plans, and that this tragedy was a part of those plans. Because, what that really says is that this tragedy wasn't a tragedy at all — it was good.

Saying, "it was all part of God's plans," pretends that we are children suffering through, say, the pain of surgery. For us, there is only pain. But, our benevolent, omnipotent Parent knows that this temporary pain serves a greater good. And so it is, itself, good. We may think that the surgery is bad; they know better.

No, Soloveitchik says, this pain, and this tragedy, were not good. And, there's no good reason to pretend otherwise. Denying that awful things are awful, and evil things are evil, is not sophisticated, intellectually or morally. It is vapid. It is lost. Our ability to know the difference between good and bad, between good and evil, is the one thing which makes us fundamentally different from other animals (that's the real lesson of the Garden of Eden story). Quashing that knowledge isn't high-minded. It's a flight from reality, and from our own essence.

Pinn and Soloveitchik, a humanist and a devout theist, agree on what the proper question actually is: What do we do now? 
Those who struggled to protect, to safeguard, those young lives—and those who lost their lives to the insanity of murder are more important than any appeal to God. We humans alone must remember them, keep the beauty and value of their short lives ever present through our memorials, through our reflexive words, but also through our resolve to determine and then change the patterns of socio-political and economic life that contribute to collective misery. Think gun control as impulse control, and as a reasonable effort to preserve the integrity of life by making it a little more difficult to destroy it.
 I’m not taking anything away from those grieving, but rather I am calling for greater attention to the framing of life, to the regulations, and dangers embedded in our social relationships that undergird our loss. How many guns are necessary to prove we live in a democracy? How many must die before we recognize collective life requires constraint, a humility and discipline that our pleas to a special relationship with God often damage. 


I've gone in a bit of a circle, here. I started off by talking about how we stopped talking about the tragedy, itself, and only talk now about our longer-term reactions to it. And then, I shared overlapping humanistic and theological responses which, in essence, say that the proper thing to do is to focus on longer-term reactions. Maybe there's a deeper meaning to that, or maybe I'm just having trouble making sense of my thoughts this morning. Maybe, like I said, everyone's still thinking about Newtown, but has nothing left to say, so we are trying to do something productive with our pain. Maybe that’s what I’m trying to do, too. 
Sometimes it is in silence that we are best able to eulogize our collective loss, and to mourn our lack of power over the circumstances that lead to such destruction.